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Choosing your Best Man
Like choosing the maid of honor, choosing your best man is a
personal, often difficult decision. Of the best man's responsibilities
and the most important is to provide moral support to the groom
throughout the wedding planning process and in particular on the wedding
day itself. Given the best man's prominence in the wedding party, the
groom (and the bride) should think carefully about selecting the “best
man for the job”. For this reason the groom should consider someone he
feels comfortable with, can easily communicate with and most importantly
trust completely. There are other factors you should consider when
choosing the best man:
- It doesn't have to be family: Don't feel obligated to
choose a family member as your best man. Instead, choose someone that
is very important in your life and can offer you loyalty and support
on your wedding day. More often than not, a brother or cousin happens
to fit the bill.
- Distance does matter: if the best man lives thousands of
miles away, it will difficult for him to communicate and participate
in wedding planning and other pre-wedding events (engagement party, “stag
and doe” parties and bachelor party). If a lot of extra help is required a local best
man may be a better choice.
- Consider the best man's past and future: consider your best
man's past behavior. If he's always been there for you when you needed
him he'll likely make a trustworthy best man. Also, consider his
future. Does he have a child on the way? Is he going through a
divorce? If so, he may not be able to give his full attention and
efforts to your wedding.
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